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There are so many things I fell grateful for

There are so many things I fell grateful for

I have so much to be grateful for this year, particularly last Tuesday night, we had our third magazine launch plus our Money, Wealth and Promotions-How you can have it all in your Career Event and it was filled with so many positive connections, joy and celebration.

3 and a half years ago if you told me I was going to have a magazine that featured some amazing entrepreneurs like Simon Sinek, Brene Brown, Peng Joon, Vinh Giang etc,I would say you are delusional.

Isn’t it funny sometimes we create our own reality yet we are the ones that sabotage what we could really achieve. The only person between you achieving your goals, is yourself. Self-sabotage happens when you don’t believe in your capabilities to achieve each thing you want.
I had set out an intention for everybody who attended or was a part of the event to have a good time. And to be honest, I wouldn’t have been able to achieve that without all the support from Thai and our team.

Things are only impossible if you believe it, you can achieve anything you put your mind to.

This year I focus on training myself to do this magic trick and to use it as a tool to engage the audience in a different way.

I have always had passion for magic and I had taken it on as a hobby, so when I was able to perform in-front of that many people there that night with ease, it really was a great feeling.
It was a great reminder for me to know that you can always find the balance between your passion and work.

When you love what you do and do what you love, you no longer have a job.

Not only did I receive great feedback from the crowd, but the night became more memorable for everyone and it was definitely a great way to end the night.

My next goal is to include Stand Up Comedy into my public speaking so if you are looking for a laugh come on down to our next event, we’ll definitely have a blast.

So… what are your goals for 2020? Comment them down below!

The VALUE of your word

The VALUE of your word

A few weeks ago, I saw a video by Kerwin Rae titled the value of your word. It made me think about how I used to be one to use my word like monopoly money and not be committed to complete tasks I said I would. However, I’ve realised when it comes to achieving your goals and dreams one thing to always remember is you have to be able to commit fully every step of the way and treat your word like gold.

We speak words to each other daily, but what is the value of agreeing to something?

Not too long ago, a commitment or saying “I give you my word” means people would die before breaking their promise or not completing what they said they would as it was their reputation they were trying to prove. One’s reliability is always on the line when it comes to the things they agree to do and whether they go through with it. This is evident in their personal life, whether its communication with family and friends or in your career where your colleagues and clients instil trust in you.

One of our values at Careerists are that “we deliver what we promise” as you should always stand by your word especially as people are depending on you to follow through with what you say.

Through my coaching I’ve seen how people are not always available to put the steps forward and do things they have agreed to because they might want to focus on other things first. This happens in life, we always have other priorities that may come in the way of some commitments we’ve agreed to, however, treating it more seriously will help in the flow of our journey as well. This means people will not be so quick to give commitment to things they don’t actually think they will or can see through.

Some tips to work towards giving value in your words are:

1) Ensure you know what your goals are
If you know what you’re aiming towards, then you should do anything to get there. This means if there are opportunities along the way that come up that may not fit your schedule and you may not have time to follow through with, shift your schedule around. There is no better day than today to start working towards your end goal, and if you don’t give it your all, no one else will.

2) Learn to say no
Not every opportunity that comes your way is going to fit you and fit what you are trying to achieve. Impressing people isn’t about the amount of work or opportunities you agree to do, but it’s about how well you are getting it done and we will always work hardest on things that align with our values, beliefs and goals. Remember that if the opportunities don’t align with your end goals, you need to let it go, more opportunities that fit your purpose will come to you in another time.

3) Don’t agree to things that you don’t think you will see through
If you are working towards a goal, then you know all the best steps to get there so don’t take on more if you know you can’t handle it. Treat your word as the most important part of you to give others and don’t hand it out freely if you don’t think it’s going to help you.

4) Commit with your 200% (above and beyond)
During a coaching session I always ask someone how committed they are and any response below 10/10 is followed by them saying they don’t want to put all their eggs in one basket. However, from an employer’s point of view, you should be able to give them more than 10/10 to show that you’re worth keeping in a company and worth the money you’re being paid. When you know something is worth it, you should always give it your all. It’s about the steps you are willing to take to be on top.

Your reputation should be the most important thing for what others think of you and who you are as a person. Great things are waiting on the other side of your valued commitments, you just have to decide what’s worth it and what isn’t. If you don’t give value to your word, you lose the trust of those most important as no one else can change that for you.

Communication is NOT a soft skill

Communication is NOT a soft skill

What is the meaning of communication? Communication is the act of conveying meanings from one person to another through understood signs, symbols or speaking. Relaying a message isn’t only reliant on the words you use but the way you say it, your expressions and your non-verbal cues.

Most people believe communication is just a soft skill or a trait that people will automatically have however, it’s something that constantly needs to be improved as there is always a next level to master your communication.
If you think about it….

Having great communication skills is a REQUIREMENT no matter the position or level you are in, in any organisation. You are constantly required to speak to leaders, managers, team member and clients and there is never just one way to do so.

If you look around you, having great communication skills are not just expected in any type of organisations.
It is also expected in your business, career and your personal life.

After coaching so many clients I have noticed the common mistakes that people make when it comes to communicating with others.

One is that they fail to articulate what they have in mind and deliver it to others.
It is a common thought that as long as something makes sense to you, it makes sense to others in the same way.

Because they think as long as it makes sense in their head, it will make sense when they say it.

However, we all process and understand things differently.

There is always more than one way to understand something.

What something means to you, may mean something completely different to another person as we all have different perspectives.

Imagine not being able to say anything to someone but only depending on body language to understand what they mean.

Or not being able to see them but only pay attention to the tone of their voice as they deliver instructions to you.

It will be quite challenging.

According to statistic, from saying a sentence to another person, it takes them words, non-verbal cues and tone of voice to understand you.

Therefore, here are some tips on how to communicate better in your personal and professional life.

Imagine you are going to communicate it to a 12-year-old
This doesn’t mean to treat everyone like they are younger than you but to simplify your instructions to avoid complication. If a 12-year-old is able to understand you, then you know you are winning.

If you do not understand something, ask more or better questions
Asking questions to clarify the meaning of someone will only aid your understanding in what you are supposed to do. If you seem to be thinking that you need to clarify something more than once, then you might need to think about how to reword your question to ensure both parties are on the same page.

Always reconfirm with someone that they understand
Remember to always ask someone if they understand what you mean as even the slightest details matter in any situation. The best way to do it is to get them to go over the instructions to repeat it back to you to see how they have understood it.

Here’s a fun exercise to do to test how differently everyone in your team perceives a statement or word:

Ask your team to gather around and think of what a simple word means to them.

Examples: Communication, Teamwork, Leaders, Hardworking, etc.

You will then be shocked at how differently these words mean to each person with what their priorities or perspectives are.
And seeing this is a great reminder for all of us. That we should never assume. Always communicate and Ask ☺

So, let me ask you this…
Are you currently using these steps to ensure you are communicating the right way?

Iris is a self- discovery & Leadership Coach at Careerists – a leading Career Coaching Company that is focused on unleashing people’s potential in career, business and life.

Iris helps businesses manage their workforce to be high performing, reduce turnover and support them to prepare the next generation of leaders.

Her “mission impossible” life has marked many events that knocked Iris down, but her persistence kept her rising and she turned every adversity that she faced into a tool that professionals can use to consciously re-engineer their reality.

Her work is often described as a very authentic and practical approach while still applying transpersonal and spiritual techniques to reach the foundation of her clients’ anguish.

Being a Master NLP Practitioner, Human behaviour expert and a Certified Conversational Hypnotherapist, Iris empowers professionals to discover their passion and talent, how to work more effectively with others and how to become the best leader within any organisation.

From Baby Boomer to Millennials – Bridging the gap at workplaces

From Baby Boomer to Millennials – Bridging the gap at workplaces

I have had the privilege to lead a team of millennials as well as coaching and guiding Gen X and Baby boomers. I discovered that their talents and strengths are very distinctive to their groups.
While each generation has a different perspective based on their upbringing, experience and beliefs, all the groups seem to share a sense of compassion and need for growth.
On one hand, most Baby boomer have tons of experience, strong work ethic, extreme resilience and grit.
On the other hand, most of Millennials are super tech savvy, they are constantly having unlimited passion and a desire to contribute back to the society.
After having worked with millennials, I realized that the stereotype about millennials being entitled is not always true.

Millennials approach to a lot of things might be very different to Baby boomers.

Their methods might look like a short-cut, but it’s just the advancement that’s aiding them to do their job much more efficiently. I mean of course if it creates win-win situation, why not?
The notion about Baby boomers of not being tech savvy and being so set in their way isn’t always true either.
I have come to realize we often label people too quickly on criteria that doesn’t even matter for them. It’s like that saying goes: “You can’t judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree”.
Not everyone is perfect – It’s all about how to communicate, collaborate and contribute to one another.

We have Baby boomers that has so much knowledge and experience about the industry that can help you understand how the business works, while millennials can help you to unlock your imagination to dream big and creating some new emerging trends.
At the end of the day. It is all about learning to speak to them in their language and respecting and supporting each other. Sharing the knowledge, skills and experience with them to help them reach their full potential. In the workforce and in life.
After all, AGE is just a number.

What matters – are your intentions and the willingness to learn.

Maintaining that STUDENT MINDSET is key.
Because whether we like it or not, AI is taking over. The world is evolving so FAST that most of us forget about the soft skills once we all had.
It doesn’t matter what generation you are from. We are all here to SHINE in our own different way.

Here are some tips to aid you in bridging the gap at your workplace and accepting each generation equally:

1. Get your personality profiles done- understanding your own strengths and challenges as well as others will help in understanding how to support and collaborate with them.

2. Ensure to always keep your communication open- there are various courses that you can invest in to improve your communication skills no matter someone’s age.

3. Always compromise as it is a two-way street- be prepared for change and embrace new ideas from the new generation that will soon become our leaders.

What’s the next step?
Check out our website on how we can help you accelerate in your career, increase your salary, advantages and possibilities along your pathway fast!

Iris is a self- discovery & Leadership Coach at Careerists – a leading Career Coaching Company that is focused on unleashing people’s potential in career, business and life.
Iris helps businesses manage their workforce to be high performing, reduce turnover and support them to prepare the next generation of leaders.
Her “mission impossible” life has marked many events that knocked Iris down, but her persistence kept her rising and she turned every adversity that she faced into a tool that professionals can use to consciously re-engineer their reality.
Her work is often described as a very authentic and practical approach while still applying transpersonal and spiritual techniques to reach the foundation of her clients’ anguish.
Being a Master NLP Practitioner, Human behaviour expert and a Certified Conversational Hypnotherapist, Iris empowers professionals to discover their passion and talent, how to work more effectively with others and how to become the best leader within any organisation.

I got kicked out of school

I got kicked out of school

Throughout my teenage life, I was always told I would never be anything great.
I was never good enough, I was kicked out from schools, moved colleges multiple times and didn’t know what I was meant to do. I had changed my studies and professions frequently and doubted myself as others were continuously doubting me too. I was stuck not knowing where my passion lies.
In 2012, I experienced one of the worst things I could have imagined and had really hit rock bottom that I even tried to end my life but thankfully, failed.
In that moment, I decided that it was time for a change. 7 years later, I stand here with achievements I never thought I would ever have, ones I didn’t even know back then were possible.
✅ Got myself an amazing life partner and business partner Thai Ngo
✅ Run a coaching business that would make a difference to others
✅ Been on Radio show
✅ A co-author
✅ Have a solid mastermind and sisterhood that would support me
✅ Have a great team that would do anything with me together
✅ Make my parents proud ?
✅ Ran a successful women networking event
✅ Performed my very first Magic in front of my audiences
✅ An editor in Chief for Your Career Magazine
✅ Run a HR and outsourcing company who helps our communities
✅ Coached hundreds of clients and mentees from entry levels to executives about how to leverage their genius zone
✅ Walked on Fire at Tony Robbins
✅ Being a Speaker
✅ Interviewed Simon Sinek
And finally…
✅ Being a Mentor at Monash Business School.

From not completing university or college to standing here sharing my journey at Monash Business School here today, it took one decision- to realise my self-worth and all that I am capable of.

If I can do it, so can you.

The longer you wait to start your dreams, the further you will be from achieving them.

NOW is the time for you to shine!

JUST GET OUT THERE AND DO IT ALREADY.

Thank you to Monash Business School for showering me with all these gifts ?

Are you a leader or a manager?

Are you a leader or a manager?

There are so many books and information out there that you can learn to be an effective leader, but whether you can implement it to your leadership style or not, is a different story.

I have been in the management role for over 16 years, and it took me a good 7 to 8 years to really understand the difference between telling people what to do and showing them what to do. One of the most important lessons any leader will learn is that even though we’re leaders, we can still fall back to being a manager that just think of short-term goals only.

At this point, you might be questioning, what is the difference? Aren’t leaders and managers the same?

Most leaders create visions, are self-aware and work actively to build their differentiated personal brand. They are also willing to take risks and try new things. Leaders have long-term intentions. And most importantly, leaders focus on people, they build loyalty and trust by delivering what they promise.

On the other hand, most managers focus on setting and measuring goals only. They establish their authority by telling their team what and how to do things. They want everyone to follow the rules. Managers sometimes come across as micromanaging because they want to be in control of everything. And at the end of the day, the team members will end up not feeling inspired or motivated to do the job as they don’t understand the ‘why’ and they don’t feel like their voices have been heard.

It is certainly a life long journey to constantly learn how to become a better version of yourself – a conscious leader. And in order for you to do it, sometimes you have to learn how to pick up those little bad habits of you falling back to being a manager again.

Here are 3 possible mistakes you can easily make when in a leadership position and some useful tips you can follow to give you leverage in this area.

1. Lack of self-awareness

As human beings, we don’t want to fault ourselves and we feel uncomfortable taking on feedback. I’ve come to realise that this is probably the most important thing that all of us need to improve on, especially for leaders.

Nobody is perfect. And it is essential to understand that there is a constant journey of building your self-awareness.

It still amazes me how I’ve come across a lot of people that think they are confident to know what is resilience and self-awareness. But there is a difference between expectation and reality. We all need to have a high level of self-awareness, it is a skill we constantly need in order to level up.

Even for the most successful executives, sometimes they still fail to communicate effectively with their team members and team leaders.

Tip: Establish a circle of trust and regularly have an honest two-way feedback session with your team members. As much as you love to give them feedback, allow them to also give you feedback. The more transparent you are, the better results you can deliver to the business.

Reminder: It is a leader’s responsibility to understand how to give feedback to individuals. While some people love to take on feedback, others might not take it really well. ‘Sandwich feedback techniques’ are often used in giving constructive feedback sessions. But once you come from a place of love, it’s always make it easier for others to take it all in.

2. Lack of self-improvement

When I came to Australia at the age of 15 by myself, I didn’t have any guidance or support. And so I had to learn how to be resilient on my own and I’ve learnt in a very hard way. The reason for that was that I didn’t have a mentor or a coach that would guide me through, and most certainly I didn’t even know that was an option.

It is undeniable that there is so much information out there, but what we are missing is we don’t have direction. Each and every one of us are so eager to learn many different things, but we don’t realise that we need to learn and understand ourselves first.

You can’t lead others better if you can’t lead yourself. You can’t understand others if you can’t understand yourself. Most importantly, you can’t love and support others if you can’t love yourself. Leadership is all about Self-Awareness, Self-Discipline and Self-Mastery.

Tip: If you want to fast-track your career and better yourself, get yourself a coach or a mentor, because you don’t know what you don’t know. Your coach or mentor, they have walked your path and they will know exactly what you need to do to get there.

Reminder: Understanding yourself is a forever learning journey. Some people take months to figure out and others take years. Once you think you’ve got it, it’s just a new beginning for the next level. So just enjoy the ride.

3. Lack of purpose

Everyone has their purposes before they start to do something. Being in a leadership position for so many years now, I realise it’s not always about your ability to be a leader, but also about the reason why you are a leader.

If you are just simply seeking power and money because it makes you feel good, then I can tell you right now that you are here for the wrong reasons.

Having the ability to understand yourself is essential, but being able to communicate with your team members is also needed.

It is important to keep in mind that you have a team with many different profiles and in order to have a good team performance, you need to be able to have different approaches as well.

When you are willing to understand your team members, and willing to overcome all the challenges that you are having then you can start identifying your purpose.

Tip: You need to start asking better questions. And you need to be an active listener, listen like your life depends on it.

Reminder: Leader is not a label, there is a lot of responsibility involved.

Whether you have been in a leadership position for a long period of time or you just started yesterday, it’s important to understand that it is a long journey of learning and you are constantly evolving.

There is always room for improvement in everything, especially yourself. If you are working with a team, allow them to give their feedback to you, and then in return they’ll accept your feedback. This way, not only you can learn from your team, but you will also learn about yourself at the same time.

It is also crucial to discover about your personalities as much as you can. In order to lead a team, you need to be able to lead yourself first. There are several tools that actually provide you a broad understanding of your personality profile, identifying your strengths and weaknesses. However, having your personality profile done without a coach to guide you through can be confusing. So ensure to have someone coach you through what your personality profile actually means. Being a Self-Discovery Coach for a while now, I’ve helped hundreds of people to realise their strengths and weaknesses. And from there, they have a leverage to fasten goals and objectives.

Great leaders will definitely make the greatest impact on life and in the workforce. Understand what motivates you and your ability to lead yourself.

If you are looking forward to advance your career, the time is now.

If you are passionate about leadership just as much as I am, come and have a chat with me so I can help you accelerate your career. You can either shoot me a message on Iris Du Facebook or send me an email through iris.du@careerists.com.au.

3 easy steps that help you to manifest success into your life.

3 easy steps that help you to manifest success into your life.

Some of you may be wondering what manifestation means or why people even talk about the concept of manifestation and how it can help you outline your career path.
Some people think that manifestation is just wishing and praying for good things to come your way, but it’s actually a lot more than that. It’s a powerful tool that can help you outline your career path and even set your life straight.

“Manifestation is an idea, desire or thought that you have, and you focus on that idea or thought and set the intention to make that become reality.”

By understanding the real power of manifestation, I have totally transformed my life and my business, and today I’d like to share with you exactly how I’ve done this.

1. Set yourself an intention/goal

Start looking for an area that you want to improve in your life. For instance, if you want to have financial freedom, you can upgrade your wallet or handbags to give you the feeling of richness and abundance.

If you want to have a better and healthier lifestyle, you can purchase a gym membership, a new pair of gym pants or even just eating higher quality foods. If you want to advance your career, upgrade your knowledge by investing on hiring yourself a coach or a mentor.

Sometimes, it doesn’t have to be expensive and it’s not always about the money you spend, what matters is the feeling of satisfaction when you can achieve what you desire.

You will gain your satisfaction the moment you decide to upgrade your life, and I can guarantee that you will be more likely to keep wanting to change.

Be so laser-focused on your desire that you allow yourself to feel like you have already achieved it.

“And funny enough, the universe has a mysterious way to help you make that happen when you take action on it.”

2. Start writing your journal

You need to ask the universe better quality questions.

When I first started doing manifestation, I wrote down my desires in a journal. I was doing this consistently every single day and I pictured the emotions that I would feel when I’ve succeeded achieving my desires.

Always remember that it is very important to focus on your intentions and believe that you can actually make it happen.

“Sometimes, the ability to believe in your ability takes time and courage in order for you to actually achieve it.”

3. Be consistent and patient

You will slowly see the changes by manifesting positive intentions, goals or thoughts into your life.

When you truly embody your goals such as what you want to achieve, you will begin to attract more opportunity to your life to help you make it happen.

“Be consistent of what you want and be patient. Don’t expect that you will get it right away. Good things take time to come.”

Give yourself an intention, because you have the right to strive for something you deserve. And most importantly, have gratitude regardless of what result you are going to get because you could always gain something from it.

Stay awesome,
Iris.

5 things you must know before starting your own business.

5 things you must know before starting your own business.

If you’ve ever wondered whether starting your own business will be easy, my answer to you will be a resounding “NO”. I can guarantee you that.

However, that doesn’t mean that it is IMPOSSIBLE. Starting a business is one of the most rewarding things you can do.

That’s why I’m here to share with you the most valuable things I’ve learnt from my journey with Careerists.

1. Do what you love and love what you do.

If money wasn’t an issue, would you still be doing the job you are currently doing every day? Would you do it for free? If you answered yes to both of these questions, you know you’re passionate about what you do.

“For me, the passion of leading and coaching has always been the most important thing to me, I want to guide the next generation of leaders to inspire others to be leaders.”

Careerists is almost 3 years old, and I still get so excited being at the office every day, because I know I am making an impact every day.

2. Don’t expect doing everything by yourself (because you can’t)

It’s all well and good if you just want to experience how it is to do everything by yourself. It’s definitely a journey on its own.

“You’ll have plenty of room to grow, understand your strengths and challenges are very crucial and there are so many factors that need to be taken into account.”

When we first started Careerists, I pretty much had to do everything from marketing, admin, sales to networking – which I wish I didn’t have to.

It was actually very unproductive because by doing low-priority tasks, I was left with less time and energy to focus on the higher priority tasks. If there is a tip for anyone, I would definitely hire a virtual assistant. You can get one from overseas or local starting from $11 an hour.

3. You probably will start everything from scratch

I can guarantee that you’re not going to know everything when you first start your business but start anyway. Perfectionist is your greatest enemy, it’s something that sabotage any type of businesses.

I can’t count how many times I have changed my logo, marketing materials and website, not to mention the amount of spelling errors I have made.

“EMBRACE the mistake. It comes with the Entrepreneurs Package.”

Although, if you still have no idea what you should do with your business, I would advise to get yourself a coach or a mentor, because you don’t know what you don’t know!

Having a coach was the best investment I have ever made. I started investing in coaching during the first year of my business and it opened up more possibilities than I would ever have been able to find by myself.

4. Look for a collaboration

Money is not the only currency. Looking for collaborations, joint ventures and partnerships from the very beginning helps more than you could imagine.

Partnership will make you stronger, and help you to success even faster, because there will always be someone out there asking for what you have but be careful with who you work with. Make sure both of your values are aligned.

“Having a partner, whether in life or in business, the wrong one will drive you crazy and cause more problems than they help you solve it.”

I’ve been fortunate enough to find a partner that’s not only an amazing business partner, but also an amazing life partner.

5. Empty your cup

In order to be an entrepreneur, you’re going to need to be open-minded.

Of course, you’re also going to have to be extremely resilient and have the willpower to persevere when things get hard. But if you’re not willing to learn and relearn everything over and over again, you won’t get far. Mindset is everything.

To be honest with you though, learning is the best part of it. It’s fascinating to learn about yourself, your team, your partners, and most importantly your CLIENT. What you can do to help foster this learning is don’t take everything too personally with feedback and always have a student mindset.

I can’t count how many personal and professional development courses I have attended since I started this journey. Be prepared to invest in yourself and know that this will go a long way.

“Sometimes when you think you’ve got it figured it all out from the start, the truth is YOU DON’T. Whether it’s in life or in business, as you go along the way your branding, your business and your direction will start to evolve.”

Stay awesome,
Iris

5 EASY STEPS TO EFFECTIVELY MAKING DECISIONS.

5 EASY STEPS TO EFFECTIVELY MAKING DECISIONS.

Life always gives us many options to choose from. And having so many decisions to make daily, it is becoming challenging to settle down with a decision and knowing if we are making the right move.

Being a business entrepreneur now, many decisions have to be made daily, and sometimes it is not easy to come up with a good one right away. There are so many factors that need to be considered, and a lot of opinions need to be taken.

I personally have a whole process for decision-making and I would love to share it with you, because I know it is a struggle for everyone.

1. Identify your goals

In my opinion, the most crucial step is identifying the purpose of making the decision by asking yourself two main questions:

“What exactly is the problem that you need to solve?”and “Why do you need to solve it?”

Whether in life or in business, we all need a purpose in order to fully and purely focus on what we aim to achieve.

Once you know the purpose of why you are doing this, it will definitely help you make better decisions. This is one of the most useful practices I’ve done in my life.

2. Gather relevant information

It is necessary to gather information before making any decision. This step usually involves internal and external work. Some people seek for internal information, others search for external information.

So what is internal and external information?

Internal information involves a lot of self-assessment, and is usually obtained by yourself from your experiences.

Another type of information that allows you more spaces and sources to search for is external information. This can be done through online research, reading books, asking for advice from friends and coaches.

Although, be careful with your sources of information. We are living in the most explosive days of the Internet, the information flow is massive and unfiltered. And so choosing the right information to take is very important.

Understanding your thought process as an introvert and extrovert is also very crucial.

3. Weighing your options

Once you have already gathered enough information, you probably already have a rough idea of your options, as well as have in mind which alternative is more likely to work.

The next thing you have to do is write down all the pros and cons in a piece of paper for each alternative. I like to write it all down, because you are more exposed to critical thinking when you write by hand rather than when you type. This practice will make it easier for you because you can see, reflect and think it through instead of having in your head.

4. Take action

We have been talking so much about what to do before making a decision, what to do to make the right decision, but we haven’t talked about what comes after when a decision is made.

You implement it.

By the time you get to this step, you would have already narrowed down your alternatives. And it’s just choosing which one works best for what you want to achieve. You can even be creative and combine the alternatives. But once you have decided, it is time to act on it already.

5. Reflect on your result

It’s important to reflect on the effectiveness of the choices you have made, see if the decisions meet your expectations or the outcome that you desired in the first place.

Reflection helps you to improve on what is coming next and learn from the experiences, as well as gives you a better idea of what to do next time you’re in the same situation again.

Remember that you’re not always going to make the best decision, because sometimes things happen. And it’s all about celebrating the mistake you have made, it’s about the knowledge that you have gained, and learn to take it as a positive and a “what-I-can-do-better” attitude.

The truth is no one is perfect, and no one would ever be. We are all unique and, most importantly, we all have our own different journey.

You got this. Good things always take time to come.

I hope my decision-making process could be one of many solutions for those out there who are looking for answers, or struggling with making decisions everyday.

Stay awesome,
Iris.

HOW a negative event can turn into a blessing

HOW a negative event can turn into a blessing

I have always found human behaviour extremely fascinating because as individuals our minds define things very differently from each other including morals, norms, perspectives, perceptions, cultures and experiences.

Morals and norms can be formed based on cultures. Perspectives and perceptions can be formed based on learning and experiences.

Recently Thai and I had a car accident while we were driving home on the freeway after we dropped off my parents at the airport. I still remember that I was on the call with my mum, and she was probably terrified listening to my voice screaming on the other end of the phone.

As I was watching this huge van in front of us hit the hood of our car, for a split second I had two questions in my mind and I asked myself:

“Am I going to heaven?”– not that I was being dramatic, it just popped into my head.

And the second question was:

“Have I already achieved enough in my lifetime for this moment?”, and without a doubt I told myself that I haven’t, this cannot be the moment for me to go.

After this accident, I’ve learnt a valuable lesson which I would like to share with you.

1. Don’t live in your bubbles.

Sometimes, we tend to stay in our comfort zone for too long and we forget that walking in the pavement won’t take us anywhere. It is safe there, but the best views always come after the hardest climb, and the best places come after the roughest paths.

These kinds of events are sometimes needed, to definitely shake us up and to remind us that we only live once.

“Life is too short, and you’ll never know what’s going to happen next.”

Therefore, take any chances that you could possibly have, do the things that you want to do, and appreciate every moment.

2. Be grateful and have gratitude for everything.

After everything was done, and our car was totally wrecked, the first thing I told Thai was “I’m so glad no one got hurt”, because the car can be replaced but no one can replace me and Thai.

I went home, listed all the things that I felt grateful for that day, focus and manifest on the positive energy. Because magic happens when you are truly grateful for the things you have but not entitled to it. It is all about the little things that count.

“Always be grateful for where you are standing today and focus on what you can learn then grow from it.”

3. There are always different ways to see things.

About 7 years ago, I went through a divorce, I also lost my grandma, my two dogs and my job at the same time. Some people might say that this is such a sad story, but it is actually the best experience that could ever happened in my life.

I learned and grew from it and came out even stronger because it has guided me to become the person I am today.

I’m not saying everyone should have a car accident or a traumatic event, but sometimes things happen for a reason. We might not be able to control what happens to us, but we can indeed control what we think, our decisions and what we want to do with it.

We all definitely have a choice. And it’s wise to think about what you’ve gained rather than lingering on the thoughts of what you’ve lost because your life doesn’t end there, it goes on. At the end of the day you are still the creator of your life.

“We always have a choice to stay in a negative state or turn it around and see the good in it. It’s time to design the life you want to live and not what others tell you to live.”

So here you go, there are always two sides to every story. When you think you’re the unlucky one, perhaps step to the other side of the road, shift your thinking and think you are the lucky one.

Stay awesome,
Iris.